Wow, might as well have some fun.
When the game launches and your in the right guild, with voice chat, and you play with the same people everyday, you will become close in game friends. The anonymity of the internet will fall away. It will be worth it.
People are what they are...you can encourage them, be a rolemodel...but the old saying goes "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink"
Gaming and gaming styles have changed a lot over the past two decades. Here's another saying for you: "I can't change others, but I can change myself".
Accept..or don't ..come up with the times or don't. The world and the things we do..the things around us...don't remain static, they change, evolve for better or for worse. :) I'm an old school gamer..probably one of the few first "gamer girls". I have learned to adapt. Still going strong, making gaming friends at 65 years old. :)
Cana
Many others have already made great points, and it sounds like you are already following some sage advice. I just don't want to make assumptuions or judge the community based on a small fraction of it. Not only do I think the majority of people don't post, I think the majority of what will form the community of Pantheon haven't pledged or even visited the forums yet. I know a lot of my old guild mates aren't interested in pledging or posting and wont seriously look at a game until it hits beta.
Take it from someone who unplugged for many months, sometimes it is MUCH needed to get a reset. I have come back refreshed, got some things in life in order, ready to dive back in slowly. If you have a true desire for a game like this, you will not completely fade away. Take a break...